10 Things to Let Go of Before the New Year 2022
Let’s Set The Stage For The New Year
It’s hard to believe that we are entering the final stretch of 2021. You may be sensing an energetic shift. December is an important month because it sets the stage for the new year. You may be using this time to reflect on your goals and focus forward with clarity. You may be setting goals about business, or weight loss, or where you want to travel in the next year.
You may have gone through some major hurts or disappointments this past year. Now is the time to take a deep breath, as this time beckons reflection on the emotional or physical pain, or the regrets we had over the last year. Past hurts, injustices, jealousies, broken relationships, along with the flow of life can knock the air out of anyone’s happiness balloon. We can recognize that we made poor choices, or that we felt embarrassed by someone who mistreated us. We may feel there is simply no justice.
We need a positive view of the future as we look forward. Yesterday will keep you hung up. While you’re stuck, you never see any happiness or progress.
Time To Create A Stronger Foundation For Your Life
Do you feel weighed down by specific people or situations? Stressed out by life’s circumstances? Use this time to consciously create a stronger foundation for your life, which means walking away from things that drag you down.
Rather than spending time focusing on what isn’t working, pull all of your energy into what is going well and focus on what you want. Use deliberate action toward those goals and you’ll see changes happen quickly.
Physically, spiritually and emotionally, I had to learn how to let go of the person I thought I should be in order to be the person I really wanted to be. Letting go of anything in life can be a little scary, but it can also be an amazing act of self-love.
So today, I challenge you with this list of 20 things to let go of before the new year comes.
1. Let go of the “all or nothing” mentality regarding success
Appreciate the grey area between the extremes of success and failure.Never let success get to your head or failure get to your heart. Inhale all those thoughts that don’t make you feel empowered and strong
All-or-nothing thinking is found in depressed people all over the world. This is because it is part of the most primitive of human responses: the fight or flight response. When faced with a life-threatening situation, depressed people feel the need to make a snap decision and act on it. There is no time for ‘maybe this’, or ‘maybe that’.
Since All or Nothing thinking is another thinking style strongly linked with depression, learning not to always think in ‘all or nothing’ terms but to see shades of gray is immensely helpful in tackling depression. It greatly reduces, or stops the emotionally-arousing thoughts that are necessary to maintain the depressed state.
2. Let Go Of Needing Everyone To Like You
For some reason, we all like to be liked. No revelation there. It’s how we’re wired.
Here’s a news flash!! Not everyone will like you!Let go of trying to fit in and be accepted by everyone. Your uniqueness is what makes you outstanding.
Everyone doesn’t need to like you, and some people won’t like you, no matter what you do. Try not to take the things these people say about you personally. What they think and say is a reflection of them, not you.
While it’s normal and very human to have the desire to be needed, liked, loved and important to others, it’s also crucial for our development to get clear about who we are and what we stand for, and to live a life consistent with those values. We need to like ourselves. Otherwise we simply become frustrated people-pleasers.
Actually, for many people, their need to be liked is a significant barrier to their personal and professional growth.
3. Let Go Of Having A Sense Of Entitlement
“Man is not, by nature, deserving of all that he wants. When we think that we are automatically entitled to something, that is when we start walking all over others to get it.”― Criss Jami, Diotima, Battery, Electric Personality.
Today’s kids grow up with an entitled mentality due to heavy exposure from non-stop advertising, TV shows and movies that glorify having stuff, and peers at school who always seem to have the latest gadgets or the hottest labels. This ultimately leads to parents giving their kids much more than they need—and sometimes, more than their family can even really afford.
Kids need to develop a sense of ownership by earning things, not a sense of false entitlement from getting what they want whenever they want it. I have seen this cause so many problems in relationships, where things are wanted but no one wants to work for it. The expectation is that the other person should work for it and give it t the one demanding it. The one who feels entitled tends to exhibit many double-standards in the way he or she behaves or interacts with other people, For example: I can be late and forget my duties and commitments, but YOU can’t; I can treat myself, but YOU can’t; I can abuse or disrespect you, but YOU can’t do that to ME.
4. Stop Keeping Your Feelings Bottled Up Inside
If no one ever knows what you’re thinking or what you need, you can’t expect to be heard or receive help. Feelings are too powerful to keep bottled up.
It may be exhausting but you can put on Oscar-worthy acting performances for days, weeks or even months at a time, pretending to be okay with people and things that are actually stressing you out & driving you crazy. You’re basically a super dedicated, unpaid method actor.
However, bottling up emotions is bad for you.
One day these emotions will spill out and it won’t be pretty. You need to learn to express your negative emotions. Find a safe place where you can express freely without worrying about hurting yourself or anyone else. It can be your closest friend, your psychotherapist, your diary or even your pillow. Cry, scream, grumble, punch a pillow, talk – do anything that will help you let go of these emotions. It’s something you need to do to preserve your sanity and peace of mind.
5. Let Go Of The Idea That You Are What You Physically Own
You are not what you physically own, so stop buying things you don’t need. Stop trying to live up to the Joneses. Don’t spend your money to impress others, and don’t think having stuff is a measurement of your success.
You are an incredible human being who’s entirely detached from what you have physically acquired in this world. Remember to remain humble. Ultimately, two things define you more than anything else: Your patience when you have very little, and your attitude when you have more than enough.
6. Let Go Of Your Anger
Never do something permanently stupid just because you are temporarily upset.
Let go of yesterday’s tragedies. You are not what has happened to you. You are what you choose to become in this moment. Drop the needless burden, take a deep breath and start again. Ultimately, you will know you are on the right track in life when you become disinterested in looking back, and eager to take the next positive step.
Let go of cheating on your future with your past. It’s time to move on and tell a new story.
7. Let Go Of Thinking Your Dreams Are Not Important
Dreams are important. They make life worth living.
Your dreams are what can get you through even the worst days. If you are struggling, your dreams are your reason to keep going. They are why you wake up in the morning and try again. They are what makes your entire life worth living. Without our dreams, we are nothing.
8 Let Go Of Feeling Busy And Overwhelmed
We’re all guilty of telling our friends, “I’m so busy.” A part of us likes being too busy because it makes us feel important and valued. We also feel overwhelmed without realizing how it happened. We say “yes” to most invitations and requests without thinking about how they fit into our big picture plans. Turning down requests from our friends and co-workers takes discipline and commitment to our priorities. As we build the “no” muscle, we give ourselves the space to design our days to reflect a balance of work, play, and relaxation. We’re in charge of our time.
9. Let Go Of Thinking You Are Damaged
You matter, and the world needs you.
Past hurts and old injustices have a way of keeping us stuck in our tracks, unable to move forward or experience joy. It can take a radical reboot to get past yesterday.
If you look really closely, you will that a long shadow may be clouding your future. It’s the shadow cast by the pain in your past—the parent who wasn’t there, the ex who betrayed, the boss who humiliated you.
Or perhaps you’re stuck in place by the unhappy residue of your own bad choices.
Ask yourself if you are willing to take the steps forward that you should, no matter how much effort is required, to push those boulders up and out of the way. You need to get unstuck!
You need to challenge that irrational, unproductive thinking until you get your head on straight. You need to face up to your fear and then call on your courage and your character to face it down.
Anchor yourself for the future. It is going to be hard to let go of the past in the absence of a positive view of tomorrow. So what you need to do is create a vision of the future, something exciting that will supply the energy and the will to push what is happening and towards the good things that await.
While you are anchoring yourself, you also need to be discarding. This is a necessary path forward under special life circumstances.
10. Let Go Of Blaming Anyone For Anything
At some point you are going to have to be accountable for your own life. If you don’t like something, you have two choices, accept it or change it.
Blame is a popular strategy. It has a false air of empowerment. It feels active and engaging, like you’re doing something – while you are actually stuck.
Chronic blame is fueled by chronic anger and hatred. These are emotions that fire up our fight-or-flight system, creating an adrenaline rush and a sense of hyped and nervous strength.
Dropping out of such blame requires acknowledging the fear and sense of powerlessness that underlie the anger. For someone who has been blaming others for a long time, that is a big and courageous step to take. For anyone to be able to move forward, it’s a step that must be taken.