10 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy over Text
“We need to talk.” If you send these words to a man, then you might as well have sent him a text saying “It’s over”, because that’s what he is most likely to be thinking. …
“My period is late.” …
“Do you really love me?” …
“It’s over.” …
“What have you been up to?” …
“I see you.” …
“Are you ignoring me?” …
Words can ruin any relationship in a matter of minutes. You might have been together for years, but once you say one of the things women should never say to men, you may end up with heartbreak. Women are tend to be highly sensitive, but men, albeit they are brave and patient, can get hurt too. Some men are like children and it’s hard to build a serious relationship with them. But if you love such a man, you should avoid being clingy and needy, because they are clingy and needy. Moreover, they don’t like when you say something that they don’t want to hear about. Even if you will run away from a needy man, it’s important that you avoid saying one of these things to your partner.
1. “We need to talk.”
If you send these words to a man, then you might as well have sent him a text saying “It’s over”, because that’s what he is most likely to be thinking. Even if he doesn’t think that this is what you meant by it, “We need to talk” sounds urgent and official. It sounds like, whatever the topic of the conversation is going to be, it’s certainly not going to be pleasant.
2.”My period is late.”
Do NOT send the “I’m late…” text. This is not a text message conversation! Having a late period is a big deal and you do not want to have this discussion over SMS.
3.”Do you really love me?”
You really shouldn’t ever send a text like this, because this does sound clingy and desperate. Guys do like their space sometimes and they hate the thought of being pushed into saying things. If he loves you, he’ll tell you when he’s ready, and he probably won’t do it by text.
Breaking up with someone via a text is one of the big no-nos of texting etiquette. If he’s not expecting it, then hearing the news is going to be bad enough, without it coming in the form of a cold and blunt text.
5.”What have you been up to?”
This text is going to reek of two possible things. Either you are desperate to see him again or you don’t trust him! “How was your day?”, would be a far better way to find out what he’s been doing recently and it won’t have him thinking that you are checking up on him.
6. “I see you.”
Do.not.be.creepy! Even if you spot your crush from across the mall, do not ever send an “I see you” text! It is too weird.
7. “Are you ignoring me?”
If he’s been ignoring you, he’s not going to respond. And you’re not doing yourself a favour by asking if he’s ignoring you because he’s still not going to respond. Just let it be.
8. “I love you.” (for the first time)
Don’t you dare break out the L word for the first time in a text! Love deserves a face to face conversation.
9. Screenshots of past conversations
Sending him a screenshot of a past conversation may seem like a good idea to prove your point at that time. But if they’ve already been resolved, then you’re only raking up unnecessary issues and adding fuel to the fire.
10. Sarcastic messages
Sarcasm isn’t easily understood even when the recipient is sitting in front of you. To expect a guy to understand it over text where he can’t make out if you are joking or serious is a little over the top. It’s a situation ripe for misunderstanding.
10 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy over Text
1. You are a “mama’s boy”
Dating a “mama’s boy” is always hard, but if you love your man and want to spend your life with him, you should never say that he is a “mama’s boy.” Accept this fact and don’t try to change him. If your man is a “mama’s boy” in his 20s, he will be “mama’s boy” in his 40s. Are you ready for it? If yes, then love and appreciate his mom more than your mom, and he will love you till the end of his life. Personally I avoid this type of men because any wrong word about him or his mother can ruin your relationship in a jiff. This is a lesson I learned from my own experience.
2. Tell me more about your ex
Although we know that we shouldn’t dwell on the past relationships, it’s tempting to know more details about your boyfriend’s ex. Avoid talks about exes, especially about intimate details. If you have a crush on a guy, but he doesn’t show any signs he likes you, or he has a girlfriend, don’t ask him if he slept with her. You will never win his heart with this question, as well as you will never improve your relationship when you know about your partner’s exes.
3. Look that girl looks so fabulous!
This sentence ruined many relationships. While it seems to be so simple and common, if you tell it to your partner and he will say “yes” or “fantastic” or something like that, chances are you will get jealous and it may lead to a fight. You probably start asking questions like, “Is she more beautiful than me?” or “Would you like to date her?” First, you may say that you’re just curious and you simply want to know his thought. But if he says “yes,” it will be the end of the world. If he says “no,” you will think that he’s trying to hide the truth from you, and it will be the end of the world as well. Ladies, it’s a sure sign of low self-esteem.
4. You can’t have fun
If you’re dating an introvert, you should accept this fact and appreciate your partner’s traits. You love parties and you know how to have lots of fun. Your partner, however, may not like parties, but it doesn’t mean that he can’t have fun. Think twice before telling him, “you should learn how to relax and have fun because you are so shy and boring.” Once you tell him that, he will never want to see you again, no matter how much he loves you. Introverts know how to relax and they are not shy. They know how to love and they are loyal, but they are highly sensitive. After all, introverts make the best husbands!
5. Am I beautiful?
Well, ladies, if you want to boost your confidence and self-esteem, leave your man alone. While men can help women boost confidence and feel better about themselves, you should never ask your partner “Am I beautiful?” If he really loves you, he will tell you about it without your questions. If your man doesn’t compliment you, it doen’t mean that you are not beautiful. Probably, he doesn’t love you at all.
6. You have a terrible fashion sense
If you don’t like how your man dresses, don’t tell him about it. You can slowly get rid of his old clothes and buy new ones, if you live together. If not, then try to go shopping together every time he wants to buy a shirt or a jacket. If you tell him that he has a terrible fashion sense, he won’t break up with you, of course, but you can greatly damage his self-esteem.
10 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy
7. When will you call me and I see you again?
When you have a first date with a man you like, it’s so tempting to ask him about your second date. However, don’t do it. He will think you are clingy, and most guys avoid clingy girls. He will let you know when you will see again and when he will call you, so don’t ask him. It’s not a pride, but being clingy is not the best way out.
8. It’s just a work
If your man spent a few days trying to accomplish an important project, but his boss said that it’s a total failure. Don’t tell him “it’s just a work.” Men appreciate their jobs, especially when they do something they are passionate about. You can tell something like, “Next time your boss will definitely notice your work,” or “Life is unfair, so maybe your boss had a bad day and your project is actually great but he didn’t notice it because of his bad mood,” “Or don’t give up. You will do it better next time. You are strong and I believe in you.” Support your partner and he will cope with any problem faster.
9. You will never become successful
If your man has a sweet temper and he can’t take serious decisions without asking for your advice, it’s tempting to say, “You are a man, you should be brave, confident and successful. You will never become successful, because you’re born unlucky.” Don’t say it no matter what. Not only will you ruin your relationship, you will make him believe that he’s really unlucky. Support him, motivate him, inspire him and help him, but never reproach him..