Top 10 mistakes to avoid on a first date

Top 10 MISTAKES to avoid on a first date.-With the emergence of social media platforms and dating apps,physical dating no doubt  can be tough. Don’t make it worse by sabotaging the relationship from the very beginning.

Meeting face to face is different from any online dating experience.

Top 10 mistakes to avoid on a first date
Top 10 mistakes to avoid on a first date

There has always been challenges of people having fake accounts or catfishing to attract what they can’t normally get in real life!

Always ensure that you at-least engage the date on video-chat or facetime  to avoid being disappointed.


We have compiled Top 10 Mistakes to avoid on a first date from relationship experts

We talked to several relationship experts who explain what NOT to do on a first date. Trust us. You’ll want to heed their advice.

For ladies,please ensure you have someone you trust that knows where you are meeting the “stranger” and if possible the details of the stranger just incase it turns out bad!Have enough cash incase you are traveling to meet them!Don’t ask for financial help on the first date no matter how rich they are or seem to be!

The dating game doesn’t always end the way we’d like it to. Sometimes it’s because there’s simply no spark, values don’t mesh, or there’s no attraction. Other times, we do things to sabotage the relationship right from the very beginning. 


1. NEVER mention your ex.

This is a big turnoff for a lot of people. Oftentimes, it’s a sign that you’re not completely over your ex and your current date is just a rebound. “Talking about an ex love forces your date to wonder if you’re ready for someone new,” warns Joan Barnard, Zoosk’s resident dating expert.

“If you catch yourself beginning sentences with ‘I used to date someone who…’ or ‘Oh yeah, my ex and I…,’ you are setting yourself up for failure.”

Although a little history when asked won’t hurt.. only when asked ..


2. Don’t get drunk.

Never try to drink for the first time or with zero experience.Drinking should really be kept to a minimum—no more than two alcoholic beverages preferably. “Excessive drinking can lead to situations where you make decisions you normally wouldn’t,” says Elle Nicole, the author of Se x Meets Style. “A first date can easily turn into a one-night stand under these circumstances. The goal is to engage with the person by listening and speaking, and that’s really hard to do if the room is spinning.”  Be sober..


3. Don’t talk about marriage or kids.

According to licensed psychologist Kimber Shelton, “If marriage and kids are important to you, there are general questions that can give you an idea of someone’s desire or feelings toward having a family, such as, ‘Tell me about your family?’ or ‘What’s your family like?’”


4. Don’t Speak too much about yourself.

Create a balance between speaking about yourself and asking questions about the other person. “Too much about yourself suggests you are too self-involved,” stresses physiologist and author Karen Sherman, Ph.D. “Asking too much about the other person feels uncomfortable and like you’re a detective.”


5. Put your phone aside.

“Texting at the table may make your date think that you are not taking this seriously or are simply not interested,” explains professional matchmaker Audra Chandler-Blakley. “So put the phone aside, and take this time to really focus on your date and get to know the date face to face.”

Make sure you avoid first date surprises whereby you end up where there is zero network-that is a red flag!


Top 10 mistakes to avoid on a first date


6. Don’t wear revealing clothing.

You have only one chance to make a good impression. Barely-there clothing can make you appear “easy” or “loose” even if you’re not. Don’t come dressed for the gym either. “Dress well but don’t overdo it. ‘Dressy casual’ is the best: shirt and pants for men and a nice dress or a cute top and pants or skirt for women,” says life coach Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC.


7. Pick a neutral dating Location

Avoid his place or your place.

“First of all, this is dangerous, since, even if you know the guy and think he’s a pussycat, he might turn into a tiger when you’re alone with him,” says bestselling author Carole Lieberman, M.D. “Also, it will inevitably lead to boredom or se x, and you don’t want either on the first date.”


8. Don’t sleep with him/her on the first date.

If you really want a committed relationship and for your date to take you seriously, don’t have se x with them right away. “Having se x on the first date will cloud your judgment, and if he doesn’t call again, you’re going to spend a lot of energy analyzing, stalking, and even asking him out yourself for a second and third date. Just because he had se x with you doesn’t mean he’s interested—and if you care about his interest, wait to sleep with him,” stresses April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert.


9. Be real-don’t fake it

IDon’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Dont fake accent or walking style.. lol

f you “act” on your first date, what will happen when you try to get real later? “What you want to do is be as real and natural as possible, so that you won’t have to try to remember what act you put on,” says relationship author Russell Friedman. “If he or she doesn’t like exactly who you are, then you want to pass on them anyway.”


10. Avoid controversial topics.

While it’s important for many people to know where their date stands on finances, religion, the future, or politics—don’t bring them up on the first date. It can lead to arguments and uncomfortable moments if the two of you don’t exactly see eye to eye. “You may be on the lookout for a life partner, but this is putting the cart ahead of the horse.

Stick to more esoteric and insightful topics,” explains clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula. “Get to know your date, and don’t get ahead of yourself.”


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